WHY THE COCKY & FUNNY ATTITUDE IS ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN... AND HOW TO USE IT I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite get the Cocky & Funny attitude. It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction. I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used. I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more." Well, was I wrong. You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance... I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept. Why? ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave. So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk). First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both. If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure. If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as "too goofy." But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill. So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is. Here's a cocky statement: "Her dress makes her look fat." Here's a Cocky + Funny statement: "If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send  plymouth voyager vent visor in the SWAT team for her ass." Get it? Start with arrogance, then add humor. So why does it work to attract women?

It's always interesting to me to get a view of how another person sees the world... Your questions have given me some insight into the way you THINK, and I believe that I'm going to be able to give you some great ideas. You said that you've found that "playing up a woman's insecurities" in a tactful, Cocky & Funny way, is really working for you. Now, this might sound a little bit "cruel and unusual" to others reading your comments... and I'd like to explain the psychology behind it, and tell you why I think it works so well for you. There are a few keys that one needs to remember when interacting with an attractive woman you've just met... 1) Most guys pursue her, give her compliments, try to get her approval by giving her things like  plymouth sundance vent visor and taking her out. 2) Most men don't say things that might "rock the boat". In other words, most men won't make a comment early on that might offend or upset her. 3) Most men give away all of their power to attractive women INSTANTLY. I'm talking as soon as they meet. 4) Women interpret these behaviors as a man not feeling comfortable enough and secure enough IN himself to BE himself. In other words, these "commonly accepted courting behaviors" actually come across as subtly MANIPULATIVE to women. At a subconscious level, a woman can INSTANTLY sense a man who is communicating the message "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to do a bunch of other things for you in the hopes that you'll give me approval". I know, the truth sometimes sucks.

There is one place where you will ALWAYS find attractive women... And that one place is BARS and CLUBS. As you already know, bars and clubs are JAM PACKED with attractive, single women... But there's just one problem: These women are usually MOBBED by guys with  plymouth reliant vent visor . Drunk guys. Stupid guys. Attractive guys. And YOU. Bars and nightclubs can be the most CHALLENGING places to meet women... IF you don't know what you're doing... But... if you DO know what you're doing, these places can be a GOLD MINE. How Do I know? Because I've spent more time than I'd like to admit meeting women in these places. And if YOU would like to learn how to master meeting women in the "Bar & Club Environment", then I highly recommend that you check out the fast-track training program I've created called "Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs".

If you do certain things and communicate in a certain way, you will trigger ATTRACTION in a woman. If you trigger ATTRACTION, you will be far more likely to be in control of the situation (and you're more likely to be successful with women in general). Now, just like you can trigger that amazing emotion called ATTRACTION with your communication and body language, you can also trigger OTHER emotions as well. And one of these emotions, for lack of a better term, is called LOVE. Now, I don't want to get into a philosophical discussion of what "love is", and how long it takes to feel "true love" for another person... But I will say that the "beginnings" of love can be observed and described. Have you seen any episodes of the bizarre T.V. show "The  plymouth neon vent visor "? You'll notice that several of the women have said things like "I am starting to have feelings for him"? When they say this, they're talking about something OTHER than just ATTRACTION. In a nutshell, I'll just say that if you ACT like a guy that wants a woman to LOVE you, then it will often HAPPEN. This includes: - Calling and seeing a woman too often - Acting like a "boyfriend" - "Courting" a woman actively If you don't want a woman to get those "feelings", then don't call or see her more than once or twice a week. Don't act like her boyfriend. And don't "COURT" HER! There's nothing wrong with going out with a woman a few times, then not wanting to see her again. The problems come when you ACT like you want something MORE from a woman, and then she starts to see you in a different way and have FEELINGS for you. There's something called an "implied social contract". This is when you do something in a way that "implies" something. If you do things that imply that you want to be her boyfriend or husband (like calling and seeing her all the time, paying tons of attention to her, courting her, etc.) then you are IMPLYING that you want her to have feelings for her. And she will. Solve this problem before it happens. Don't imply.

Here's an example of some of one of my favorite topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of getting married and us being in a relationship... and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample dialogue. Keep in mind, I might have a conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five minutes earlier... Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money" Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with money." Her: [Laughter] "OK, that sounds like a plan" Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such as  plymouth horizon vent visor ." Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you." Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money." Her: [Laughter] "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your girlfriend." Me: "That's all the more reason." ...do you get what's going on here? I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting me, etc.). If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as a sign that you need to get out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or two. When you ask for something and she says, "I'm sorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, this relationship isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up with you." In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where she's saying something that you don't like, and it's funny. When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men initiate. And as soon as the woman you're talking to "engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON. There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS. If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same... only exaggerate it. If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that she wants you. This is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in her touching you. There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.

It's interesting not because of the content of the actual question... but, more because of what it SAYS about you and what you're thinking. When you say, "Can you tell me how to ask a woman if she has kids before a first date?" it implies that you think that there's something wrong with just coming out and asking it. It's like you're saying, "Well, I know that I can't just ASK her if she has kids... so can you tell me some cool trick to get her to spill it without me having to ask?". Well guess what? THIS IS A PROBLEM. It's not necessary to use trickery when you want to know something about a woman. If you want to know if a woman has kids, then you need to ASK. Say "Hey, do you have any kids?". If she says, "Yes", then say, "Great. I'm really looking for a woman who doesn't have any kids, but we can be friends". Let's use a different example. Let's say you've placed a personal ad online for plymouth grand voyager vent visor. Let's say that a cute woman replies. Let's say that she sends you a picture... but it only shows her face... and you're only interested in women who are slim. Now, you probably would write to me and ask me to give you some slick way to get her to share how much she weighs with you without having to ask. Wrong idea. Just email her and say, "Hey, how tall are you and how much do you weigh? I really prefer women who are slim. Let me know...". That's it. Think about it. If she IS slim, she'll tell you, and probably be glad that you were up front with her and direct. If she ISN'T slim, she'll be glad you told her now and didn't waste her time. I think that your problem is probably rooted in insecurity, and caring too much what other people think of you. ...by the way... it's NOT OK to say, "Hey, I really HATE FAT CHICKS... so tell me now, because if you're fat I'm going to bail...". That's not cool. If you act like an adult and expect others to act like adults, you'll do well with women. If you pussy-foot around the issue (a perfect term for you and this) you'll wind up trying to do things that waste everyone's time. If you're up front, direct, and not caring what other people think of you, then you're going to make women respond more powerfully.

"How should I act on the first date?" I get a lot of specific questions that are basically variations of this... things like: "What should we talk about?" and "How do you keep the conversation interesting?" So instead of answering one specific question, I'm going to lump them all together... and I'm going to just address them all in this Q& A Dating Tip. Here goes... THE FIRST DATE ISN'T AN INTERVIEW The first thing to remember when you're meeting up with a girl for "a date" is that it's NOT an INTERVIEW. You're not applying for a job (and neither is she), so don't act like it. It's so funny to me when I sit down in a restaurant and I hear a couple that's obviously out on their first date... and the guy has no idea what to do. It sounds like this: "So, did you grow up around here?" "Where did you go to school?" "Do you have brothers and sisters?" "What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?" Painful. Why is it that people tend to act like they're on job interviews when they go out on dates? It's just such the NOT-right thing to do. I mean, no wonder women sit around with each other and complain about how hard it is to find an interesting guy in this world. Here's a good rule of thumb: ONLY ASK QUESTIONS OR TALK ABOUT COMMON, BORING, PREDICTABLE TOPICS LIKE SCHOOL, WORK AND FAMILY IF YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY RUN OUT OF ALL OTHER OPTIONS... AND YOU REALLY ENJOY THAT CURIOUS DRY FEELING RIGHT WHERE YOUR LEGS MEET. And why is this? Good question. And I'm glad you asked. First, let's talk about WHY most guys allow the conversation to turn to these ultra-boring topics... Most guys approach a first date from the perspective of "I don't want to screw this up". In other words, they try to play it safe and not do anything or say anything that the girl might not like. They try to present themselves as "nice guys" who love mom, have a good job, and are stable. Somehow, guys have gotten the idea that if they act nice, buy dinner, and talk about the same old things that everyone else uses to bore women to tears that they might get lucky and score (or at least get a kiss and a second opportunity to buy dinner). I don't know where this concept came from, but it's just not a very effective approach. WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO THE SAME OLD SAME OLD, BORING, PREDICTABLE CONVERSATION. Attraction happens when there is energy, spice, humor, mystery... COCKY AND FUNNY... and special sauce. So, if you want to create ATTRACTION instead of BOREDOM, you're going to have to learn a new way. You're going to have to learn to talk about something else like plymouth fury vent visor.

Dear Master Pogi, Dude,i must say your a genius. I just graduated from high school, when i was in school i was always shy around girls an didn't know what to say, you've helped me open up my eyes to what i should of been doing a long time ago. Now I've got 2 girls that both want me , an i really dont know how to handle that. Any suggestions????? None of my friends are giving me any good answers. Im sure u have some. Help me out if u get a chance, u dont gotta publish it in your emails u send to everyone . I just really wanna know what to do, i dont want to fu** this up. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Jayson Cage of NY. OK, well it doesn't sound like too much of a problem to me. You have two girls that like you, what's the issue?! You're going to have to decide if you'd like: 1) A relationship with one of them. 2) To be single and date both of them. If you want a relationship, then pick the one you like as you choose a  plymouth caravelle vent visor and go out with her more than once a week. If you DON'T want a relationship right now, then don't see EITHER of them more than about once a week (twice once in awhile is OK, but any more than that and a woman will start to go into relationship mode AUTOMATICALLY). There is no problem with more than one woman liking you, the problem comes if you start being dishonest and not-up-front in your dealings with them. These are great problems to have, really... as long as you don't screw it up by being a jackass.

If you're interested in learning how to approach women, get phone numbers, get dates, and then smoothly take things to a "physical" level without rejection, then take a minute and look through the programs I've created to help you. Understanding why you need to leave at this point is part of understanding the dynamic called ATTRACTION. So before I get into the specifics, let's talk about the underlying process that creates ATTRACTION... 1) ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional reaction. ATTRACTION is nature's way of taking over our minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we mate with someone with the best possible genes like  plymouth breeze vent visor . I realize that this sounds pretty "clinical" and lame, but it's the damn truth. Attraction isn't concerned with you, her, or love. It's evolved over a loooong period of time, and it has a purpose that is very important. 2) ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it isn't created by things that "should" create it. Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of compliments when you first meet a woman, and kissing up to women to get their approval are examples of "logical" things that SHOULD create attraction... but don't. When you understand how attraction works, you begin to see that it has a "logic" all its own. Attraction is one of my favorite subjects... and I think you should understand it if you want to be successful with women. 3) Women aren't attracted to guys who act like needy Wuss-Bags. When guys give lots of compliments, seek approval, act clingy, or try to go out of their way to be overly "nice", it usually backfires. Women run from Wussy men (either that or they go shoe shopping with them... and the guy usually pays). 4) Unfortunately, many guys are mentally programmed to a sort of "Default Wussy" mode of behavior when they encounter a woman that they're attracted to. When you combine this Default Wuss mode with nervous body language, you create an almost impossible barrier between you and ever creating ATTRACTION. 5) Just like a painting or a song, too much can ruin an interaction with a woman. You must know when to leave, hang up, or end the interaction. Leaving at the right moment creates tension, anticipation and mystery.

A few hours ago I was standing in a "posh" bar in San Francisco. I was standing near to the bar, looking around at the people, when the guy next to me starts talking to a girl that he doesn't know. She turned and looked at him with a look that said "I don't know you, I don't want to talk to you, and you have no chance with me". The look on her face couldn't have been more clear. As soon as he started talking to her, she put up her defenses. The more he tried to talk to her, the more annoyed she got. It was painful to watch. Then things got REALLY interesting. The guy turned to me and started making conversation with me. He asked me how I was "doing" with the ladies at the bar. I told him that I had just arrived after i stepped on the  acura legend engine mount , and I wasn't particularly in the mood to talk to women at the moment... I was just enjoying my drink and relaxing. He then started to talk about how "meeting women was a numbers game" and how he had been "laying rap" on women all night... but he didn't have any "luck" so far. We started discussing our different approaches to meeting women. I told him that when I decide to talk to a woman that I really find attractive, I am confident that I'll be successful with her. He kind of laughed and told me that meeting women was a game of luck, and if you wanted to win, you had to just keep playing the numbers... and hope you find one that likes you. Right at that moment, two cute women walked up to the bar. One of them was very hot. He looked at the hotter girl, pointed to her, and said "I like that". I said "Well then go talk to her". He decided to go "order a drink" (in other words, he was going to go up to the bar and FAKE like he was there to order a drink, and then "accidentally" start a conversation with her). Of course, he already HAD a drink, so he fumbled around trying to find a place to put it down so he could walk up to the bar with no drink and not look like he was "on the make". It was pretty damn funny. Anyway, he squeezes in next to this girl, and tries to act like he's just there to get a drink. He then turns to her, and tries to start a conversation. What happened? Of course... Her defenses went up INSTANTLY. She said a few words to him, but then turned away from him, took her drink and her friend, and walked away from the bar. He came back over to me and made no comment about the interaction with her... I watched him try to talk to more women after that... all with the same result. Their defenses went up AS SOON as he started talking to them. This guy's theory of "talking to a lot of women until you get lucky and find one who likes you" was working pretty well... Except for the fact that he WASN'T getting "lucky" at all, and NO women liked him....